Why aren’t they denying “Sherlolly” from the start? 

 (Sherlock meta by eugeniebatch)

“And he adores Molly, of course he does. He loves her. I don’t think she has the same sort of crush on him anymore.” (x) 

“While Sherlock was faking emotion when he was talking to John from the rooftop, […] when he goes to Molly, he’s being genuinely emotional.” (x) 

“In the end of that scene, she’s a bit wounded by it all, but he’s absolutely devastated. He smashes up the coffin, he’s in pieces, he’s more upset than she is, and that’s a huge step in Sherlock’s development. The question is: Did Sherlock survive that scene? She probably had a drink and went and shagged someone, I dunno. Molly was fine.” (x) 

I have noticed that most of the time, when Moffat talks about Molly/Sherlock and their feelings for each other, he specifically talks about Sherlock’s feelings, like trying to imply that his feelings are more important (or equally important?) than Molly’s, or that the viewers should focus more on his feelings than on hers (maybe because Molly’s are obvious).

I know some of you will say “oh, please, that’s because he’s a misogynist and we already know he always diminishes Molly’s character, etc, etc, etc.” But I’m not trying to discuss that. Not now.

What I’m trying to point out is that, to Moffat, Molly is always fine (in the end). She helps him but tells him off when she needs to, she always wins their discussions and she seems to be the strongest one when they’re together.

On the contrary, Sherlock seems to be the one with “all the feels”. He’s the only one who gets hurt the most, feels more emotional and is the most affected one (by Molly and the circumstances around/between them).

Some weeks ago, I asked for someone to find me any links or quotes where Moffat or Gatiss have mentioned Molly's unrequited love for Sherlock, in an explicit way. I needed to find something like that to be sure of what I was going to write here, but unfortunately nobody could help me…

So, I’ve come to the conclusion that neither Moffat nor Gatiss have ever declared that Molly’s feelings were unrequited. I have never watched/read an interview in which they have made clear that Sherlock doesn’t love her (romantically), as they did when talking about John (here).

On the contrary, they have specified he ACTUALLY does and the only sources we have to believe he doesn’t have feelings for her are Louise Brealey talking about ‘unrequited love’ in some of her interviews, several articles written by journalists or bloggers claiming it to be that way and, of course, our own eyes as viewers of the series. There is no evidence that the creators of the series have made explicitly clear that he has no feelings for Molly Hooper. Not before this season and not after it (yet), although we had Gatiss saying: “We have to be left uncertain as to, when he says ‘I love you’, does he actually mean it or is he just saying the right thing to save her life. You’ll never quite know.” (x)

Well, then… my question is: Why aren’t they denying “Sherlolly” from the start? Why not saying it’s something that didn’t happen and won’t happen at all because Sherlock “is clearly capable of feeling emotion and of falling for someone, but that someone is not Molly Hooper”, for example????

Is this something we are completely missing?